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If you’ve been reading  my blog, you know about the issues that I’ve faced during my marriage in the last few years.

I haven’t really talked about how we’ve been doing for the last couple of months.  After everything came to a head, I decided to back off talking about us for a minute until I could get some perspective.

Well.

So, now that I don’t work EVERY single weekend, we’ve had more time to spend together as a family and as a couple.. And instead of going straight to bed most nights when I am home, I’ve started taking my laptop wherever he is. And I’ve even *gasp* turned it off to have conversations.  Some nights we just sit in the same room, occasionally talking while each is on his/her laptop. Some nights we engage in extra curricular activities :-).  Some nights we watch a show( we LOVE that new show Alcatraz. If I’m not home, he will Ti-Vo it and wait for me before we watch it.)  We’ve been compromising on a few things, and we are talking more, agreeing more. It’s been getting better.

We’re still  working on our babysitting issues so that we can get out just the two of us more, but I’ve found that it’s easier for me to meet up with him every other week and have lunch. Just the two of us.  And that’s BIG.

But don’t get me wrong, we still argue. We still bicker. And sometimes, he gets on my last nerve because we just can’t see eye to eye on some things. But we’re trying.  We’re making progress.

And I guess that’s what marriage is all about. Sticking around through the good and the bad.  Working on our marriage instead of just existing in it.

So we’re a work in progress that is progressing.

Stay tuned.

 

 

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    adrienne
    February 14, 2012 at 6:58 am

    Aww great pic!

    KEEP AT IT!!!!!! 🙂
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    kita
    February 14, 2012 at 8:21 am

    That’s great. We are a work in progress over here also that’s what counts though making progress. I have found a babysitter but I am waiting on him to ask me out I don’t that is going to happen so I will have to take charge and take him out *sigh*

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    Mimi
    February 14, 2012 at 8:59 am

    Yay! That is the first step. Men can be such babies. They need our attention. I have been turning off my laptop at 11 unless he is already asleep and snuggling with him until around 1 when we fall asleep. Those extra moments sure make a difference!
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    K. Rock
    February 14, 2012 at 8:59 am

    This is good to hear. I hope you guys continue in this direction. Congrats on the progress made so far.

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    SimplyB
    February 14, 2012 at 9:02 am

    This is wonderful news!!

    I’m so glad that you posted this. I am always happy to see that couples are out here really trying to make their relationships work.

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    Disco Diva
    February 14, 2012 at 9:19 am

    So glad to hear that you are moving in a good direction! Have you checked with any of the providers at your daycare to see if they babysit on the side?

    Lunch dates are so cute! And Cdub is handsome!

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    RhapsodyDiva
    February 14, 2012 at 9:34 am

    Yassss! I’m excited that you guys are making strides in the right direction. Time and consistency are key. Men are more fickle than us women. I, too, am working to make my marriage a bit tighter than it is. Why nobody told me that marriage is such hard work? *sigh* LOL
    Great photo of C-Dub

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    KalleyC
    February 14, 2012 at 11:16 am

    Excellent. It’s great that you guys are making steps towards progress! Keep up the good work. Marriage is hard work, and we all know it’s hard, it’s how we handle the struggles that matter though.
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    Kate
    February 14, 2012 at 7:36 pm

    I like that your are honest and raw in this post. Even on day like Valentine’s where some may post mushie love stories. Marriage is a commitment to stand by someone even when it’s difficult! Best of luck in the journey of progress!

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    BossyGirl
    February 14, 2012 at 7:51 pm

    I am so happy for you chica!!! Marriage is indeed a “work in progress”.. It does get better with time!
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    dmac
    February 15, 2012 at 10:48 am

    This is a great post. It sounds so simple but staying married is the only way to stay married. And just so you know, most marriages have had rough spots and troubled times but they just pushed on through.

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      rosesdaughter
      February 15, 2012 at 11:53 am

      I’m learning the hard way! Marriage is a LOT of work! Especially after children!

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    Krissy
    February 15, 2012 at 3:18 pm

    This was great to read. I’m glad you guys are working it out! 🙂

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    Tiffany In Houston
    February 16, 2012 at 10:19 am

    My heart is warmed reading this. Thrilled for you and C-Dub!

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    TheProDiva
    February 16, 2012 at 9:19 pm

    Keep at it girl! One thing I’ve learned in the short time that I have been married it that it takes work! If both of you are willing to work at it, I’m sure you will make it through this tough patch. Good luck girl!
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    rosesdaughter
    February 18, 2012 at 8:54 pm

    Thanks everyone!! We’re working really hard over here!!

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