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Reflecting on 7 Years

Yesterday was our 7th anniversary.  We’ve been married  for 7 years.  Wow, before this year, I would always say: it really doesn’t seem like it’s been that long!  But this year, boy this year was a doozy.  And I felt every last one of those 7 years.

I had heard the stories about the 7 year itch and how the 7th year is a bad one, but honestly? I put that aside.  We were fine. A few issues here and there, but really fine.  I guess I was too comfortable.  Because baby THIS year??? This last year was HARD. And I am honest about this because I don’t want folks to think it’s all roses around here…

Wait, I forgot, you already know how it is around here!

But even though there have been times in this last year where I have quesitoned this man and this marriage seriously, I never questioned that we made a mistake. I never questioned whether or not we should end it. I simply bitched, moaned, and complained in this space, then rolled with the punches. Because in my mind, that’s what married people do.

We argue, we fight, we disagree, we hold contests to see who can stay mad the longest.  But at the end of the day, that’s still my boo. I’m still his boo. We kiss and we make up. Not because we necessarily want to, but because we have to to keep this thing we started going.

I admit that sometimes on this blog, I tell only my side of the story, and not his. That’s because I write from my point of view.  But believe me, he has a lot ot put up with too, so it’s not a one sided battle around here.

But we make it work.

Day after day, week after week, and month after month.

And as we start on this 7th year, I am looking forward to tackling whatever challenges, joys, defeats, battles, highs and lows that life is going to throw at us…together.

Because that’s how it’s supposed to be.

Here’s to seven more years….

 

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    Attorney2be
    August 27, 2012 at 6:42 am

    Congrats again and thanks for your honesty. I love the fact you don’t pretend it’s all roses bc marriage is hard. But you’ve done good. Many blessings to you and 70 more years 🙂
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    Jessica
    August 27, 2012 at 7:15 am

    Congratulations! I wish you all many more years!
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    Disco Diva
    August 27, 2012 at 7:19 am

    Congratulations! I love that you express its hard but its not about giving up. Too many people are quick to say its a mistake and the only resolution is divorce. I love Black Love 🙂

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    Kita
    August 27, 2012 at 8:47 am

    Yay for the 7 years it’s the hardest believe me but you made it. Heres to many many more years of fighting and loving hard.
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    Whitney
    August 27, 2012 at 8:53 am

    Congratulations, marriage is work like any other relationship. If you don’t put in the work, the marriage fails. I’m speaking from experience on that and issues. Don’t give up and keep using this platform to help you work it out. Fogo de Chao is the bomb girl!
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    Mimi
    August 27, 2012 at 8:54 am

    We are hitting 7 on Sunday. Oddly people talk about the 7 year itch and actually the past two years were the easiest for us. I guess after the first 5 he had to only get better!

    Happy Anniversary!
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    ayana
    August 27, 2012 at 10:18 am

    Heyyyyyy! Okay. So I have to tell you that I read every single one of your blog posts. And I LOVE them all…I am just super bad about commenting :(… because I read them from my phone, my phone is slow… blah, blah, excuse. Anyway, I am SO happy about this post, that I HAD to comment!! Congratulations!!!! We will be at 7 years in April! Oh and P.S. My son (who is 3 and a half!a!!!) Is NOT potty trained! It is so frustrating! Anyway, keep up the great work!
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    KalleyC
    August 27, 2012 at 11:36 am

    Congratulations on 7 years. There are days when I look at Mr. C and wonder how in the *blank* did I end up in this marriage, but every marriage has ups and downs and like any relationship, you gotta work to make it work. Here’s looking forward to many more years for you and your hubby. 🙂
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    Quiana
    August 27, 2012 at 3:06 pm

    Happy anniversary! Isn’t it great that even when you get mad you can’t stay mad? Wishing you many more years to come =)
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    Brainy Pint Sizer
    August 27, 2012 at 11:48 pm

    Happy Anniversary and congratulations to you and CDub! Relationships are not all singing and dancing. There’s work in a relationship. It shouldn’t be painful–but you have to work at it and realize that you are both individuals, with your own brains, desires, anxieties, insecurities, etc., etc. It ain’t reality (smh) television, it’s >real life<. So, good for the both you pushing through, saying you're sorry when you know you're wrong, and remembering that in seven years, you had the most precious gift of all…

    …the most beautiful baby boy who loves you both! Yay Pookah!
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    Nellie
    August 28, 2012 at 2:13 pm

    Happy anniversary again 🙂 I totally feel you. Marriage ain’t easy. But in the end its totally worth it.
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    tristan
    August 30, 2012 at 10:33 am

    happy anniversary! i have been married for 5 and, girl, let me tell you…it has NOT been easy. i agree with you though, i have never thought it was a mistake…more than anything because i’ve learned more about myself in the last 5 years than any other time in my life…the growing has been painful but i know that i am a better person because of my husband.

    i’m visiting from SITS but i have officially become a fan. 🙂 you have a beautiful family and you live in my favorite city. i miss it there SOOO much and anxiously await every single planned visit. so jealousy drew me. 😉

    best wishes.
    <3
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    misssrobin
    September 1, 2012 at 5:33 pm

    Congratulations! I love this post. It’s so real. Marriage is hard and anyone who says it isn’t is either lying or delusional. I also love that you acknowledge you can be difficult sometimes, too. What a mature outlook. Best wishes for many more years of mostly happiness (and a little fighting to grow on).

    Happy Sharefest (and anniversary). I hope you have a lovely weekend.
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    Jessica Grace
    September 1, 2012 at 6:36 pm

    Congratulations that’s so wonderful. Hope your life is filled with many more blessed years.
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    TheProDiva
    September 3, 2012 at 4:01 pm

    I’m super late, but happy anniversary! I raise my virtual martini glass and wish you and CDub many more years of happiness! I’m completely convinced that bumps in the road are nothing but precursors to makeup sex. Yeah I said It! LOL!
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