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Reflecting on 7 Years

Yesterday was our 7th anniversary.  We’ve been married  for 7 years.  Wow, before this year, I would always say: it really doesn’t seem like it’s been that long!  But this year, boy this year was a doozy.  And I felt every last one of those 7 years.

I had heard the stories about the 7 year itch and how the 7th year is a bad one, but honestly? I put that aside.  We were fine. A few issues here and there, but really fine.  I guess I was too comfortable.  Because baby THIS year??? This last year was HARD. And I am honest about this because I don’t want folks to think it’s all roses around here…

Wait, I forgot, you already know how it is around here!

But even though there have been times in this last year where I have quesitoned this man and this marriage seriously, I never questioned that we made a mistake. I never questioned whether or not we should end it. I simply bitched, moaned, and complained in this space, then rolled with the punches. Because in my mind, that’s what married people do.

We argue, we fight, we disagree, we hold contests to see who can stay mad the longest.  But at the end of the day, that’s still my boo. I’m still his boo. We kiss and we make up. Not because we necessarily want to, but because we have to to keep this thing we started going.

I admit that sometimes on this blog, I tell only my side of the story, and not his. That’s because I write from my point of view.  But believe me, he has a lot ot put up with too, so it’s not a one sided battle around here.

But we make it work.

Day after day, week after week, and month after month.

And as we start on this 7th year, I am looking forward to tackling whatever challenges, joys, defeats, battles, highs and lows that life is going to throw at us…together.

Because that’s how it’s supposed to be.

Here’s to seven more years….

 

TheProDiva

Monday 3rd of September 2012

I'm super late, but happy anniversary! I raise my virtual martini glass and wish you and CDub many more years of happiness! I'm completely convinced that bumps in the road are nothing but precursors to makeup sex. Yeah I said It! LOL!

Jessica Grace

Saturday 1st of September 2012

Congratulations that's so wonderful. Hope your life is filled with many more blessed years.

misssrobin

Saturday 1st of September 2012

Congratulations! I love this post. It's so real. Marriage is hard and anyone who says it isn't is either lying or delusional. I also love that you acknowledge you can be difficult sometimes, too. What a mature outlook. Best wishes for many more years of mostly happiness (and a little fighting to grow on).

Happy Sharefest (and anniversary). I hope you have a lovely weekend.

tristan

Thursday 30th of August 2012

happy anniversary! i have been married for 5 and, girl, let me tell you...it has NOT been easy. i agree with you though, i have never thought it was a mistake...more than anything because i've learned more about myself in the last 5 years than any other time in my life...the growing has been painful but i know that i am a better person because of my husband.

i'm visiting from SITS but i have officially become a fan. :) you have a beautiful family and you live in my favorite city. i miss it there SOOO much and anxiously await every single planned visit. so jealousy drew me. ;)

best wishes. <3

Nellie

Tuesday 28th of August 2012

Happy anniversary again :) I totally feel you. Marriage ain't easy. But in the end its totally worth it.