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Weekending…..

When Cdub decided that he was going to go to the Alcorn vs Jackson State game, I decided that me and Pookah would take a trip to see my parents. I hadn’t checked on my dad since late  September so it was time.  Plus I was tired of trying to visualize the changes my mother was telling me about my father.

Pookah looooooves to go to my parent’s house. Not only is he in love with my mother( I mean, I’m like chopped liver next to her) but his favorite cousins are there. So he had loads of fun on Saturday with these two..

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And for some reason, a nature lesson got started…

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My father is….changed…

It’s hard to see the frailness and the uncertancy that has become the man who has always been bigger than life. To see him dependent on others when he has always been oh so independent. To hear him not being able to clearly get his point across….it’s hard.

 

But to see how my mother still dotes on him.

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How she is so patient, so kind, so accomidating and innovative in the face of so much change. So much…dependeance is an amazing thing to see.  Of course, I wish my father would just stop being stubborn and go to rehab so he could get somewhat better and take the burdon off of her, but he won’t so, I guess I’ll stop beating that dead horse.

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I guess being married for 45 years will do that for you. I always say that my parents are one of the last group of folks who actually MEANT for better or worse.

They are my inspiration……

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It was a good weekend.

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    Dawn ~ Spatulas On Parade
    November 19, 2013 at 9:02 am

    Lovely tribute. My Daddy just passed away in June and it has been very hard. He was very sick at the end. My parents would have been married 50 years had he survived until October. They meant for better or worse as well. There were many years where it was terrible, but they loved one another and were devoted. A great example. Love them, and visit often as you can, time goes by and none of us are guaranteed tomorrow.

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    Kita
    November 19, 2013 at 9:15 am

    45 years they need to tell their secret cause I got my divorce lawyer on speed dial < Does speed dial still exist though. Anywhoo he looks good and so glad you got to go spend some time with your family always good to take a trip home.

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    Disco Diva
    November 19, 2013 at 10:22 am

    My father was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer last year and the love/care from my mother makes me weep. It is better or worse/sickness and health. He’s still sick but mother doesn’t waiver…and we have to rmemeber to take care of her too because caring for the sick is so taxing. We try to make sure she gets breaks…but its hard because she doesn’t want to stop or not be available.

    They just celebrated 48 years and I pray that they have another 48.

    Good luck to you and Cdub…having a great example in your parents is awesome.

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    Krystyn @ Really, Are You Serious?
    November 19, 2013 at 10:23 am

    45 years….that’s amazing.

    How lucky you all are to have each other in your lives…and do a little outdoor learning, too.

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    Cassie @ Southeast by Midwest
    November 19, 2013 at 10:54 am

    You mother is so beautiful and her and your father look to have a very loving relationship 🙂

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    Aleshea
    November 19, 2013 at 11:06 am

    Yes, ma’am. Yes m’am at your photo skills. Yes ma’am. And I understand. I lost my father some years back and it was hard to watch someone who had always been so strong and been there for us become to “helpless’ in a sense. Sending hugs, thougts, prayers and over all positive thoughts your way love.

    And I love what you said about for better or worse. My parents were only together for about 20 years before my dad died but I like to think if he was still here they would still be kickin’ it together.

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    Shell
    November 19, 2013 at 11:57 am

    Your parents are adorable! 45 years of marriage is so impressive. I hope to get there someday with my husband.

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    KalleyC
    November 19, 2013 at 12:13 pm

    45 years is amazing. The love they have for each other is so evident in your pictures. My mom was my father;s primary caregiver when he had colon cancer, and it was a lot of work, but she said it so clearly–it’s not work when you love someone.

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    Krissy
    November 19, 2013 at 12:49 pm

    This made me smile so big. It reminds me of my grandparents. How she was with my big pops before he passed. They had been married over 50 years by that time. It’s sweet and I can only hope that when I’m married is lasts as long. My parents are setting a great example already.

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    Jennifer
    November 19, 2013 at 1:44 pm

    Its so nice to see couples that have stuck together through thick and thin… its sadly rare these days 🙁

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    Lindsey @ Redhead Baby Mama
    November 19, 2013 at 2:19 pm

    Your parents are beautiful!! I love that last photo of them. So much love there.

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    Nellie @ Brooklyn Active Mama
    November 19, 2013 at 6:00 pm

    They are my inspiration as well. They are a gorgeous couple. Men will always be men in their stubborn ways, but what an awesome role model your mom is for caring for him through it all. The love literally jumps out of your pictures!!

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    Melissa
    November 19, 2013 at 6:06 pm

    These are such gorgeous photos. Your parents are so lucky to have found each other!

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    Janeane Davis
    November 19, 2013 at 6:34 pm

    This was a beautiful story. I am happy about your parents’ 45 years. I only have 22 more to go to catch them. I am inspired by their beautiful story.

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    Kecia
    November 19, 2013 at 6:52 pm

    Looks like your son enjoyed the trip. Isn’t it amazing how almost anything can be turned into a learning experience with young children?!

    Your parents’ marriage is definitely inspiring!

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    Chelsea
    November 19, 2013 at 10:12 pm

    45 years, that is incredible. Your parents are an inspiring example of love! And your little man is the cutest 🙂

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    Piera
    November 20, 2013 at 12:04 am

    What an awesome inspiration your parents are! Congrats to them for being married for 45 years!

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    Joi
    November 20, 2013 at 1:06 am

    Wow, the photos alone capture her devotion to him. My aunt is the same way taking care of my uncle since 2007. That life is tough but as you said, for better or for worse

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    Daphne
    November 20, 2013 at 1:10 am

    That’s awesome that your parents have such a beautiful marriage. Your father is lucky to have a woman in his corner that will go to the ends of the earth to make sure he is taken care of

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    katherine bartlett
    November 20, 2013 at 4:13 am

    What a lovely post!

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    Angela
    November 20, 2013 at 10:23 am

    This is such a lovely tribute. 45 years of marriage is so special. My grandparents celebrated their 50th last year. It’s just so amazing to me!

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    Ange
    November 20, 2013 at 5:07 pm

    45 years is an amazing accomplishment, congrats to them <3

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    Healy Harpster
    November 20, 2013 at 9:25 pm

    More years for them to come, they are so sweet!

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    Stacie Connerty
    November 20, 2013 at 10:03 pm

    I love so much to see couples that stayed married for so long and are so happy. Congrats!!

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    K. Elizabeth @ YUMMommy
    November 21, 2013 at 7:03 pm

    Nothing like being back with family. Glad you and Pookah could to spend time with your parents and the cousins.

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    Lynn
    November 22, 2013 at 1:14 pm

    Such a lovely story… 45 years!!!! *BLESSING* And, that look great… Glad you were able to capture the moment and enjoy!

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