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Not My Usual Monday…

So, Monday’s are usually all about ME and what I’m doing to better ME.

Well, since I’m a Mommy, My Life isn’t always about ME.

And so today, Pookah has hijacked this post.

And made it all about him.

My Boy

This is my “normal” child:happy to meet new kids, center of attention, go get em Pookah

 

On most days, Pookah is fine when I drop him off at daycare.  He is never happy happy joy joy, but he usually warms up and I feel comfortable when I leave him as he blows me kisses goodbye.

But lately, that has been missing.

First, I started to notice that he just stood there when I dropped him off.  He was slow to warm up, slow to join the crowd, and he was NEVER smiling.  The teacher would get him and lead him over to the circle, and he would look back at me with such a forlorn look!  But I thought, he’s just sad about me leaving.  He’ll be OK.  A little separation anxiety.  And I was right: he was fine.  By the time I picked him up, he would be my happy happy Pookah.  An eager to go Pookah, but happy none the less.

But today was different.  He was fine until we got to the lunch room where they were all having breakfast.  I led him to a chair and sat him down. He wouldn’t take off his hat, kept handing it back to me and just stood there with his arms up for me to pick him up.

Silently.

Without words.

I sat him back down in the chair, and proceeded to talk to the teacher about what was for lunch that day.

I peeked down at Pookah and he had a strange look on his face.  I leaned down close to him to ask what’s wrong and he was moaning. Softly. Almost inaudibly.

I was startled.  I tried to kiss a smile out of him, but he continued to moan softly.  I kissed him a couple of more times and hugged him and waved goodbye.

He didn’t wave back.

He was back to normal by then, more interested in the applesauce on the plate than me.

And not moaning anymore.

But it bothered me.

It bothered me the short five minute ride to Subway, and the short ride home.

It’s bothering me right now.

I want to go back and snatch him up and bring him home.

I want to go spy on them to find out why my baby was moaning and had that look on his face.

Why my very happy talkative child turned into a mute moaner this morning as soon as I dropped him off.

Was it a fluke?

Was it just one of those things?

When I pick him up, will he be his normal happy self?

Will I get a report that he was “aggressive” at school today?

I don’t know what to do.

I’m so exhausted right now from working last night, but I want to go back and get my baby.

I don’t know what to do!

I don’t know what to do.

 

krissy

Monday 15th of August 2011

I'm with keylus 100% check up on that for sure. Also always go with your 1st mind concerning your baby. He can't tell you everything going on just yet so you have to play off his actions in cases like this.

Bella

Monday 15th of August 2011

Oh lady, your concern and worry is so tangible in this post! I think most moms are overprotective, but sometimes we have to follow our gut. If something is telling you something is amiss, then a chat with the staff is in order. I would definitely find out what is affecting his transition and what changes could be having a negative influence on his behavior. Here's hoping Pookah is back to his happy self soon!

ShaBoogie

Monday 15th of August 2011

Awe... that brought tears to my eyes. I SO know that feeling. Wondering if you're missing something.. wanting to be with your baby & keep him safe *sigh* .. I hope everything turns out ok and he is your usual happy baby when you pick him up.

Ayana

Monday 15th of August 2011

You are probably just sleep deprived. But, if I were you, I would probably go back and get him. I am super overprotective like that.

keyalus

Monday 15th of August 2011

If you are that bothered when you drive away and bothered enough still to post about it - I feel like it could be your spidey senses tingling. There are days when Lewis cries and there are days when he clings to me when I drop him off. But those days are pretty even with the days when he runs to his teacher and forgets that I am even there. Crying and clinging seems normal - moaning - especially if that is something he doesn't do often...something isn't right!

He might be OK when you pick him up because there is a shift change. We have AM teachers and PM teachers so maybe one is OK and the other isn't. Maybe there is something with a particular child like the commenter above mentioned. One thing is for sure - you need to get some answers and if you don't feel right about it - get him out of there. Daycare costs a fortune and you need to feel good about your child's security and well-being.