Reminder: We plan, God Laughs….
Big Baller….
This is my last week of working night shift. Can you see my leg twitching????
Oh course, nothing is going as planneed.
For instance….
My husband, lost his mind. And decided, at the last Bleepty Bleep minute, that he just couldn’t handle all he would have to do on those two to three days a week I would be working.
All that he has to do consists of….
- taking Pookah to school
- picking Pookah up
- going to work in between
Hmmm
OK OK, I’ll fess up. CDub works 40 miles away from our house/daycare. On a normal day, it takes him anywhere from an hour to and hour and a half to get to work and the same to get home. Sometimes even longer if it’s the height of rush hour. So, he is stressed that he has to change his schedule to get to work earlier, so he can leave earlier to pick up Pookah. AND, he is stressing that he won’t be able to get home in time to pick the boy up.
Hmmm, yeah, but I’ve been talking about this for damn near a year. You decide a WEEK before it becomes a reality to point all of this shit out to me?????
DEEP BREATHS and MAJOR SIDE EYE.
After intense debate, negotiations,and compromise ( on my part once again) he decided that he would at least try.
silence….
So, what I really really need is one of three things:
- Another job. Preferably one that will let me work from home or get off at 3pm.
- To stay home and not work at all….he offered, but I like not having to explain why I spent what I spent on three days in New York for Blogher…
- A nanny.
The nanny seems to be the best option at THIS time. But finding one….OMG. I just need one a few days a week to pick up Pookah, bring him home, feed him a snack and wait for CDub to get home.
That’s not too much to ask is it??
Lawd! Why can’t anything just go smoothly in my world??
But if it did, this wouldn’t be My Life now would it?
Suggestions???
I feel your pain. Maybe put him in a daycare closer to dad so he won’t be late picking him up. If I got a job I think I would put mines in a daycare near my job so I won’t have to rush before they close at 6/6:30 or maybe find a 24 hour daycare those are very hard to find though. *big sigh*
I’d go with a nanny, or a daycare closer to dad’s work. Care.com was how I found my summer sitter – but if you decide to look there, google around for a discount code before you sign up. There’s usually one out there.
And unless this is 100% your problem because you want it to be, it’s okay to make it partially his problem to figure out, too. 😉
Ahh, hubbies and last minute complaints. I totally understand where you are. I would suggest what Kita said, you can put in in day care near the hubby or go the nanny route if that doesn’t work. If anything he should at least try. It’s not like he’s the only one who made a sacrifice.
A nanny a few days a week would be just wonderful and we know you will investigate, investigate, investigate whomever you choose. Cdub would have been ok, he sounds like he was just stressing a bit, and you both have to share the responsibility of making sure Pookah is in a safe environment. Hold on girl, this is temporary. Can you say dayshift? Yay!
I have no advice that has not already been given to you. I think a nanny is a great option. Or maybe a trusted teen nearby who could get Little Man home? Does your hospital offerchildcare with extended hours?
I also totally agree that CDub should help with solving these problems rather than add to them. 🙁
(((HUGS))) and best of luck!!!!!
i like the idea of moving him closer to his dad’s job. However, when you are off you’ll have to drive that 40 mins to pick him and drop him off. That seems like a hassle. The nanny doesn’t sound like a bad idea and it doesn’t seem like it will cost you much. You’ll only need her for an hr or 2 for 2-3 days
You should look into a nanny share. That seems like it would solve the situation. CDub should pay for it. 🙂
We (women) handle the things that men freak out over with such poise and grace. I would try the nanny thing if I could find someone I trust and understands my family’s needs. Stay strong!
Long time reader; first time commenting. CDub’s concerns seem very reasonable to me. He seems to be a good man, husband, and father. I wonder if you realize how often you “drag” him on the blog, and if you do it IRL. Sometimes, it seems like it’s all about you, but I’m hoping that’s just the “blog effect” – where how you’re portrayed is not exactly who you are. You know, you can WIN, and still end up the biggest loser. I see a lot of myself in you, and pray that you don’t continue to make the mistakes that I made during 21 years of marriage. You have a beautiful family. Do whatever you have to do to keep it exactly that way.
I agree with Kita. I know moving him with his allergies and all would be another headache but once you got him situated it would make life easier. Rushing to get home to pick up a child is the worse feeling. Did it for many years. I wouldn’t wish that on C Dub especially with Atlanta traffic.
Now a nanny would probably be the best move. I know of someone who used some sort of service in this area and she loves her nanny. I will pass the info along to you once I get it from her. Hopefully it will help.
I see where he is coming from, I just wish he had made his issues known sooner!! But I think I may have found someone, but if it doesn’t work out, I will definitively take that info!