Why Santa Claus Will Visit OUR House…..
I don’t have a witty way to start this post, so I’ll just dive in: What’s going on with the Santa Claus hate on the web?
I’m not bashing anyone’s choices, family traditions and such. I understand that for religious reasons, there are some people who just don’t do holidays at all.
But what I’m finding lately, is a trend of “not doing Santa Claus.” The number one reason seems to be that you are “lying” to your kids when you teach them about Santa Claus. There are so many posts out there about this topic that honestly, I had to stop and think about me and mines and what I thought about the whole tradition. But after a lot of thought, talking to my parents, CDub, CDub’s mom( yes chile I did) and a few other folks who opinions about parenting I really respect, I realized that my original point of view on this topic was going to remain the same.
So, after reading a lot of posts in the last few weeks on why folks are not going to do Santa, I finally decided that a point of view on why we will do Santa Claus in this household was due.
I grew up in a religious/strict household. I mean really we went to church on Saturday and Sunday because my mother was a practicing Seventh Day Adventist and my father sang in the choir on Sunday at our Baptist church. We were taught from birth that Jesus was the real reason for the season, and that everything else came second. Christmas was also about family, because Christmas was the one time of year that we made the trek from DC to Alabama to see Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles and cousins. I loved Christmas, and still do. Every Christmas I SAW the meaning of the season. We lived it. Some of my fondest Christmas memories are of family gathered around the Christmas tree on Christmas Eve singing carols, passing out gifts ( we were really really big on GIVING in my family), hearing my Daddy sing Oh Holy Night like an angel, my cousins and I sneaking spiked egg nog while the adults were talking and reminiscing while the wonderful smells of Christmas dinner drifted out of my Grandmother’s kitchen.
And a big part of the joy of Christmas was Santa Claus. Yes, we believed. My parents never actually TOLD us there was a Santa Claus, but they let us believe. We didn’t hear: behave because Santa is watching or you won’t get any gifts. Because you had better behave anyway, not matter WHAT time of year it was. We always had a 5 gift rule in our house because my parents told us “we have to pay Santa for those gifts.” But despite of or because of all of that, Christmas was still a magical time filled with what ifs and did Santa come yet and sleepless Christmas Eve’s waiting for him. Yes, we put out Cookies for him. Yes, I SWORE I heard sleigh bells on the roof one year. I would look in the living room, and there would be no toys and swear that a minute later when I looked again that the toys were there! And the look on my Grandmother’s face when I told her ( because she was the only one up) about what Santa had brought me are always some of my favorite Christmas memories too. But I was also delighted with the oranges and Christmas candy and apples that she gave us every year too. So it wasn’t about just toys and Santa. It was about the joy and the magic and family.
I want that for Pookah.
At Christmas time, I want Pookah to sing Oh Holy Night. I want him to be a wise man in the Christmas play at school. I want him to make a Christmas list. I want him to enjoy decorating the tree and sneak into my spiked egg nog. I want him to think of Christmas and think about family. I want him to wish and dream and plan. I want him to think he heard Santa. Like I did.
Now about the whole lying thing. Yes, I want to be as honest as I can with my child. And I am. But is believing in Santa Claus any different than believing, as my friend Jessica put it “that they are flying alien unicorns and Pokeman with super powers”? No, kids are just being kids. Thinking with their imaginations. Will they eventually stop? Yes. One day, they won’t believe in Santa, Unicorns, Pokeman, Harry Potter, or the magic of Disney if you will. But their childhood will have been what I like to think a childhood is supposed to be: magical and joyful, with the power to believe that any and everything is possible. When I stopped believing I didn’t feel betrayed by my parents. I wasn’t upset or bitter. And neither was any family member OR friend that I polled this week. Our children are only children for so long( what 5 or 6 years?) before the big bad world starts to turn them into adults. Why can’t they have this short time? What’s wrong with letting them believe?
In conclusion, I must repeat that what you do for your children is your choice. You are their parents after all. But don’t bash me and mine for choosing to let our children have this one piece of childhood that we think is important. That we think is a tradition, that we think, yes, is a part of Christmas.
Thoughts? What do you think about Santa Claus?
I just missed the magic too but didn’t feel upset with my parents at all! Enjoy Christmas!
I have seen 2 of the posts. My mom didn’t force it on me I learned about Santa in school I assumed there was a santa and she never corrected me as a matter of fact that’s exactly what she said when I found out there was none. I was 8 and came downstairs to see her wrapping gifts I said you liar you lied to me. My mom said calmly you gone fix your tone or I will trash this stuff She said I didn’t lie you assumed that’s not my problem it’s yours. I don’t tell my son one way or the other his school told him and we just keep it moving no use telling him their is none. Kids are smart these days they will figure it out if they get mad oh well that’s life get use to it.
I remember the church I used to belong to a few years ago the pastor stood at the altar and told everyone that we are lying to our children in front on our children. I personally didn’t like his approach, and I bet that granddaughter of his took pictures with Santa. My children believed, it’s just like the Easter Bunny and everything else we believed in as children. I never over indulged my girls at Christmas, kept it sensible for me especially when I was single. They get all year and really get hooked up on their birthdays. It’s about the memories they will take with them as they become adults…you are only children once.
I’ve seen these posts! Its has become a bit of a fireball on the web these days! I don’t have a very strong opinion either way. I grew up TOTALLY believing in Santa, I would go to be on Christmas Eve hoping and wishing that my gifts would be there and no matter how early I got up 5-6am they would be there! Santa would come through again!
I think I might introduce Santa next year, because its fun 🙂 And its a required childhood experience! I also want my kids to know that they are loved and you give gifts to the people you love because we are celebrating Jesus’ birthday. I guess I need to find a balance somewhere in there!
First:Hi!!!
I can see why the constant focus on spending that is now so associated with Christmas would make you feel that way. And like you said, Christmas is about so much else. But I’m not advocating spending a whole lot of money for Santa. That’s not the point. For instance, Pookah is going to get ONE gift from Santa. That’s all. Because its the idea. The tradition behind Santa that I support. Not the mindless spending that had come to define society’s version of Christmas.
I don’t read enough blogs to have seen any of the santa bashing. It’s not that deep lol.
I never believed in Santa. It wasn’t because my parents didn’t want us to believe, they didn’t care either way. I just never believed in it. I never ruined it for anyone else that did though.
With Jas, I’m just gonna play it by ear. Shes been talking about Santa and she must have heard it on TV and at school because I have never mentioned Santa to her and really I hadn’t planned on it. I want her to believe what she wants and when she doesn’t believe any more then that’s okay.
Yes! I didn’t tell a pookah about Santa either, he heard it at school ( the Christian school at that). But I was ok with it. I didn’t correct him, I just went with it, just like my parents did! And when he stops believing, he’ll move on, but he would have enjoyed the experience.
We’re NOT doing Santa Claus at our house for many of the reasons you’ve heard.
My husband and I decided not to lie to our son about any of the made up characters (Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny, Santa, etc,).
We want him to know that his gifts come from his hard-working parents and the people who love him. Granted, there’s no way to keep him from hearing about these characters. But he will know from us that it’s just part of a “holiday story.”
I remember I was devastated when I realized my Mother had been lying to me about the Tooth Fairy and I don’t want to have my son the same disappointment. I want to be consistent with my parenting to always TELL the truth and always EXPECT the truth from him. Otherwise, if I teach him about these characters I’ll feel like a hypocrite.
I’m sure Pookah will love Santa! Thank so much for checking out my thoughts on the subject too. It sounds like for most folks it’s based on how they grew up – they often want similar experiences for their children and since you had such a wonderful integration of both Santa and the traditional meaning of Christmas in your home you know how you’ll execute it. I’m sure it’ll be fun for your family! Who knows, I may change my mind but for now since neither me nor my husband grew up believing in Santa we won’t focus on him in our household. For now my 2 year old Nia sees tons of general Christmas imagery and is caught up in the general spirit of Christmas. Seeing her eyes sparkle when I participate in our Christmas activities including helping her understand the story of Christmas makes my heart swell!
“Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus. He exists as certainly as love and generosity and devotion exist, and you know that they abound and give to our life its highest beauty and joy. ” – Frances P. Church 1897.
Sometimes the goodwill and faith that Santa teaches echoes our love for religion and saviors. Good for you for bringing these principles to your family in the way that you WANT to!
I agree with you…….but also I didn’t know you had an SDA background. I was raised in the SEA church (on my moms side) as well and did the same thing as you a lot of times with church both days because my dad wasn’t SDA.
Yes! My mother finally stopped going on Saturday to keep the peace with my dad, but still practices the sane principles. There is no work( cooking cleaning etc) done in her house on a Saturday!
Well you know how I feel. One thing im really sick of is the chicks who are like I dont do Santa – okay cool – but then they run all over the internet/facebook/twitter acting like every single pro Santa statement ever said is an affront to their parenting styles. Like please take a seat. One the left. Far awar.
It’s not about you.
*slow claps for you*
First of all love this post. Second of all, I think that children will have more than enough time to grow up and realize that Santa, elves, The Toothfairy, The Easter Bunny and Elmo aren’t “real”. BUT…for now, we can most certainly begrudge them the “realness” of the world and give them permission to let their imaginations run as wild as they possibly can. I become extremely annoyed with a lot of folks who have become so disconnected from what it’s like to be a kid. Sigh for them!
I think it’s really a personal choice. I haven’t read any of those posts that you are talking about, but I think it’s sad that so often bloggers think because they’ve decided something with their family they go online, write a post, and try to convince everyone to come to their side. It’s sad. I’ve seen it with so many other topics, and each time I cringe! I think you should teach Pookah what you want about Santa Claus. It’s your child, your family, and your traditions.
That’s the thing about the blogosphere, every one feels they are an expert and some miss the point of stating their opinions and respecting others and their rights.
We give the option in this house. Like you I remember those magical memories and I still stress how important it is to give and that the birth of Jesus is really the true reason for the season. However I still want them to feel what I felt. I didn’t feel like my parents lied to me when I found out there wasn’t a Santa Clause. I just kept it moving. I think these idiosyncracies lie on the personality of the person. Some people are just very intense and that’s fine but when they try to convince others based on their experience…I clock out.
You made a very valid point about Disney. If that’s the case Disney characters and the most “magical” place on earth should get the same connotation. Yet somehow its different. Like you said I only know about what we do over here…and that’s all I’m concerned with!
I respect people who don’t believe, and I would expect them to do the same.
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