Motherhood at 2 1/2….
You see this face?
Project 52: Week 27
He looks so sweet right?? Looks almost angelic right????
Hell no.
Everyone told me that two was bad, but just wait until 3.
Well, like everything else, Pookah reached this milestone early, and I wish to God he hadn’t.
I spend my days saying no, putting this little boy in timeout, talking to him firmly, yelling, screeching, talking calmly…. you name it, I do it.
I can feel my blood pressure going up just thinking about it!
It’s like we are in a constant battle: him vs me; him vs us; him vs everyone.
He is just so strong willed and stubborn.
Just like me.
He wants to have the last word.
Just like me.
He wants to have his way
JUST.LIKE.ME.
Do you see the problem?
The boy may be his father’s clone, but in thoughts and actions, he is JUST LIKE ME.
It isn’t good when two strong willed folks get in a battle.
Yeah, I know, he’s only 2 1/2. But still! Must it be such a battle everyday? The temper tantrums, the “NO”, the spitting, the hitting, the shouting, the stomping his feet, saying “I’m Mad!”( yes, he said that to me).
I’m tired. and I see how parents end up with unruly, undisciplined children who just run all over them.
We had planned on going to see the fireworks last night, but after a long day full of temper tantrums, short naps, showing off in public, screaming, crying, etc etc, I was soooo done.
And since I’m the de facto disciplinarian around here, it all seems to fall on me.
I actually heard that man( CDub) tell Pookah, “I’m gonna tell your Mommy if you don’t act right.”
Da hell?????
Sigh.
Is anyone else experiencing a stubborn/unruly toddler or is it just me???
Please say it’s not just me…..PLEASE!!!
I know that this too shall pass, and I’m trying really hard to be patient, but then, patience was never a virtue that I had. I want him to behave NOW!
Or at least half of the time.
BIG SIGH.
Help……
C-Dub gotta help you girl, he’s gonna be too big pretty soon and you need daddy’s help with discipline. He doesn’t want to wait until he’s too old. Hang in there! Spitting and biting got you in serious trouble in my house. I could work with everything else.
Nope. Not just you. Little Guy can be sweet, but when he wants something when he is hungry or tired he goes into tantrum mode. There is no talking to him. And he is only 2.5! I cannot recommend “the way of boys” by Anthony Rao strongly enough. He gives some ideas on discipline for boys, and explains differences between boys and girls. Great book which puts things inperspective.
Oh, and there was a great video on the toddler years done by a group of bloggers. It was great. Unfortunately, i cannot get the link from my phone. It may have actually been called the Toddler Years.
Here is the link to the video I mentioned above.
http://www.phdinparenting.com/2011/12/11/toddlers-the-hours-are-long-the-years-are-short-video/#.T_bXTL_6ueW
I have actually bookmarked it and look at it from time to time.
Its not just you. Preston is very very easygoing but for the last month: I’m mad. You made me cranky. Daddy made me sad. Daddy’s being a punk. Whine whine whine. Go to your room. Yada yada. It’s a phase. It’ll pass. Hopefully before the two of us go insane.
It does not get better either sorry my son is 6 and now he not only get’s smarts with me but he thinks he knows everything that’s even worse.
Lawd. It’s like Lil Mama went to sleep and fell into the terrible two’s. OMG she is short of awful. Throwing things and slapping the other kids. Man.
Now Mr. will discipline and thank goodness he has the gift of the raised voice. When folks hear that they get to shaking in their boots and get some act right fast.
Oh, I am so here with you!! My husband is the same way as yours: “I can’t let you stay up late because mommy said so.” Great. Way to make me look/be/feel like the bad guy. I don’t like to fight, but sometimes it feels like it must be a fight, an unfair fight that will only end in tears. lol.
SO THERE!!!! It’s like Pookah and my little man could be twins. It’s horrible. I wish I had some secret to make all of this pass a little faster but girl, know that I am in the struggle with you!!!!!!!
this right here? IS MY LIFE! Mine is the *exact* same way!!! Everything, the spitting, the talking back, the STRONG WILL and just wait until the language and the senses develop more. Just yesterday I was telling the 3 year old to stop pointing at me and telling ME what to do! I am there, we will unite and these boys WILL NOT WIN.
Geez, you all are scaring me! My daughter is 19 months and we’re definitely seeing the “shift” happen. She’ll be two in December and I’m bracing myself. The book I plan to read is the “Happiest Toddler on the Block” by Dr. Harvey Karp. His book, “The Happiest Baby on the Block” changed my life when she was a newborn! Good luck with everything. Hopefully he’ll be out of this stage soon.
I always hear that unruly toddlers turn into well behaved adults. Could be a total lie! LOL! It will get better!
Totally not just you! I have a two and a half year old girl who is currently roaring at me like a dinosaur and now trying to climb in the exercauser with her baby sister…. oh wait the dinosaur is back!!! LOL. Love your blog… adding it to my list! Happy SITS day!