You’ve seen it.
The hair either a: wrapped up in a scarf. b: under one of those sleeping caps or c: a hot mess.
The t shirt( oversized) or tank top( dirty).
The pajama bottoms ( with cartoon characters).
And the Pièce de résistance: the dirty house slippers.
You’ve seen this NOT in someone’s house.
You’ve seen this at your local Walmart, Target, grocery store, or street.
These young people just don’t care.
I mean, is it just me? Am I the only one offended?
Or am I just getting old?
What happened to all that advice our Mama’s drilled in our heads?
“When you go out, wash your face, brush your teeth, at least put that hair in a nice pony tail. Put on some decent clothes. And clean draws. you never know…”
It’s bad enough we’ve got these young boys walking around with their 5 sizes too small pants hanging around their knees.
But now, our females don’t care either???
What happened to caring about how you look?
When did it become “IN” to look like, excuse my french, SHIT?
For example.
I had a 17 year old patient the other night. She showed up, unwashed( just imagine that in labor will you…), in a dirty too big t shirt, sponge bob square pants pajama bottoms, old dirty nasty house shoes, bad breath and hair under a bonnet.
Her boyfriend: He himself was clean. But his clothes were not. His too small jeans were around his knees and I had the pleasure of seeing his backside every time he so much as moved.
Their friends: a variety of the same.
I was soooooooooo disgusted. I had to ask: why? Why the pajama bottoms? Why the bonnet? It’s not like she was in that much pain when she arrived. Her water broke: no labor.
Her answer: *stupid giggle* it’s cute!!!
The ignorance, the sheer ignorance everyone really got to me. This little girl (and that’s what she was) had no concept that coming out the house without washing yo ass and/or in your night clothes was an offense. Neither did her friends. They had no concept of grooming. Of looking nice just for the sake of it.
I couldn’t take it. Luckily, she delivered quickly and I sent her to postpartum.
But the conversation I had with these CHILDREN upset me. These are the parents of Pookah’s generation. These are the parents of children he could end up going to school with. That he could be influenced by.
WHAT THE HELL???
Where are THEIR parents??
This generation has me a little scared. It’s not just the clothes and lack of grooming that continues to bother me. It’s the sheer ignorance. Not stupidity. These children aren’t stupid. They are quite smart. But ignorant. They don’t know basic stuff that a mother or aunt or grandmother or father or uncle or brother should be teaching them. What happened? What is happening?
Whatever it is, I’m tired of it.
I feel like Marvin Gaye:
Make me wanna holler and throw up both my hands.
Cause this is some BULLSHIT ya’ll. REALLY.
adrienne
Friday 16th of March 2012
Parents are more concerned with being their childs FRIEND instead of their parent. My kids are older (16, 12 & 10) and some of the things I see are horrible. I'm bringing my kids up JUST like my parents brought me up. Hopefully when they are on their own with their own family they will remember what I'm teaching them.
rosesdaughter
Friday 16th of March 2012
I think at this point, that is the only thing we can hope for. I can only instill the values that I KNOW are right. And hope he remembers when I send him out into the world.
attorney2be
Thursday 15th of March 2012
While this post made me giggle, unfortunately everything you said in it was true. These children today have no pride about themselves at all. I totally agree, a lot of them are very smart but yet very ignorant. As parents, we should lead by example. That seems to be the problem, no parents around to lead or if they are around, the kids are mimicking them. How many of these same kids we encounter, have you seen their parents looking exactly the same way?
When I go out, I am always dressed. I'm not saying dressed up, but I will make sure my hygiene is on point, hair is combed, clothes clean and I do have on shoes. My children know how anal I am about this and therefore they will not come out the house looking any kind of way. My 21 year old does not live with me and as far as I know, she gets dressed before heading out. I had to laugh because my daughter nicknamed me feBreezy. She says it's because I always smell so good. LOL But I seriously take that as a compliment.
The other thing that struck out at me was you talked about the girl being 17, the boyfriend and friends. Where were her or his parents? Were any adults there with her? Just curious.
rosesdaughter
Friday 16th of March 2012
There were parents there, who were reasonably groomed and dressed in regular clothes. With GOOD hygiene! They are obviously not passing on what THEIR parents taught them.
joonluv630
Thursday 15th of March 2012
BWAHAHAHA! This post was hilarious! (BUT TRUE.) It's funny cuz I'm a family therapist, and work with families in their homes, and you'd be surprised how "comfortable" they can be with how they are dressed when I walk through the door. Now I know that it's their home and I'm coming in, but we have a scheduled visit. I'm not just dropping by and catching you without you getting a chance to bathe, change, and be prepared for the session. And guess what? These kids get it from their parents cuz when I walk into these homes, the parents are a mess too. SMH.
rosesdaughter
Friday 16th of March 2012
And THAT is really sad. SMH
Jessica
Thursday 15th of March 2012
lol. This post made me laugh. But I agree. I enjoy looking at pictures from the 30s, 40s, 50s, and 60s because I enjoy seeing normal people put effort into their appearance and dressing up to go to normal places, places like a department store. Ohhhhhhh. lol.
I hope to instill in my girls the value of good hygiene and clean clothes. I can't say why our society has taken this turn, but you're right, it's a shame!
rosesdaughter
Friday 16th of March 2012
I keep wondering why it took this turn? What is happening socially that is causing these kids not to care?
Missy | The Literal Mom
Thursday 15th of March 2012
" It’s not just the clothes and lack of grooming that continues to bother me. It’s the sheer ignorance. Not stupidity. These children aren’t stupid. They are quite smart. But ignorant. They don’t know basic stuff that a mother or aunt or grandmother or father or uncle or brother should be teaching them. What happened? What is happening?" - YES, yes, exactly. I've been feeling the same way. And the apathy! It's infuriating, really.
Thanks so much for visiting on my SITS day. Good to see your blog too!
rosesdaughter
Friday 16th of March 2012
thanks for stopping by, I really enjoyed your blog!