Husband Vs Hobbies

When do hobbies interfere with a marriage? C-Dub and I had a major discussion on Saturday….

So, I’m really having a problem with C-Dub and my hobbies.  namely, my blogging and my new found photography interests.  And to some extent, my reading hobby.  It all started today when he accused me of spending too much money on a new camera.  i was just thinking, what if I had gotten the camera that I really want?  But as it is, I spent much less than I could have trying to be economical.  But he couldn’t recognize that.  all he knew was that I has another amera when we already had two.  Two point and shoots.  Granted, I did buy a supped up point and shoot, but still, it was a major upgrade.  But anyway, whenever i mention going to a blog conference, he wants to know how much it costs?  Its always about how much it costs.  But when it comes to his interests who cares? This has been bothering me for a while really, but I haven’t said anything.  But it came to a head today because I felt like he went out of his way to criticize.  And my state of mind was not prepared to let it roll off of my shoulders.  I usually can do this, but I was so hurt that he didn’t understand.  So hurt that he would accuse me of basically taking needed money from the kitty and spending it recklessly.  First of all, it was my money to spend.  he accused me of spending money left and right, but really I haven’t  I did rejoin bootcamp, and I joined Massage Envy’s club where you get a massage every month for a memebership fee( that’s under $100 by the way.)  And all of this is coming from MY extra money.  So what is the problem? As CFO of the family, I say we can afford it, or rather I can.  I’m not feeling him policing my money.  That wasn’t part of the marital agreement.  I don’t police his.  I don’t as him how much he spend on golf or the yard or his car or anything else.  Why? Because its his money! But I think the whole problem is he’s jealous.  I was about to rip him a new one when it seemed like the light bulb went off and he realized he was treading on shallow water.  But now I feel like I gotta doe everything hobby related before he gets home.  So it can be all about him him him….

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