The Beginning….
Thanks everyone who commented on my last post!!! I LOVE my bloggy friends!!!!!!
So, on to Part II………
Me:
It’s a new year. I know I’m going to have to have the surgery. Nothing I can do about it but pray. But in the meantime, I have…..goals.
I’m trying not to call them resolutions. Because I hardly ever keep new years resolutions. But this year, I have a few goals.
- Get healthy. I am far far away from it now. I’ve gotten lazy with cooking healthy and exercising. Before I got pregnant with Pookah, I was obsessed with exercising and eating healthy. I wasn’t pregnant, didn’t have a baby, so that was my main focus. I’ve stated over and over and over again on this blog that “hey! I’m going to loose weight now!!!” But then I never follow through. So, instead of focusing on loosing weight, I’m going to focus on becoming healthy again. I’m going to eat right, I’m going to exercise, I’m going to have my surgery, and I’m going to run a 5K by the end of the year. Yep. That’s right.
- Start Grad school. My “career” as a nurse is at a crossroads I think. Either I’m going to be a bedside nurse for the rest of my career, or I am going to advance. I can’t see myself at 40 or 50 still working nights, still on my feet for 12 hours straight, or working holidays. Nope. I’m reaching the end of my tolerance for that. So, the next logical step is grad school. I’m still on the fence about what would be my focus, but I know I need to go.
- Get rid of the clutter. My house is taking over my life. Every since I had Pookah, I feel like I can’t keep up! So my goal for my home this year is to get organized, get rid of the clutter and to stay that way.
Pookah:
The new daycare that I am looking at offered Pookah a free morning “getting to know you” session. I sent him yesterday morning. I was worried because he would be unfamiliar with the kids, the teachers and their routine. I wanted to see how he would do with one mealtime. This daycare attempts to get the kids to eat the table food, but if they don’t they do make sure that they eat SOMETHING. No calls at 2 pm saying Pookah has only had water. So. When I dropped him off, I had to sneak out because while he was willing to go play with the new kids and read books with the new teacher, he was keeping me in his line of sight. He started to cry when I left, but quickly got distracted.
When I came back 2 hours later, it was to discover that he had been fully participating in all activities, and that he actually ate a little table food( SMH)! When it was time to leave, he passed out kisses and hugs to his teachers and seemed happy. I’m going to go ahead and enroll him. And keep my fingers crossed.
My marriage:
Well. I think I have found part of the problem: Sex.
Oh yeah. Hubby doesn’t get enough.
And no sessy times makes Hubby a very cranky boy.
And yes, sex won’t solve all of our problems, but it would be a start.
Now, if only I could find the energy………………………….
Don’t know how I missed your last post but I’m just going to put that surgery in God’s hands and leave there so enjoy your vaca!!! Hope it’s as painless as possible. YAY POOKAH! So glad he likes his new center, I’m ready to send this little monster too but I know I’ll be the basketcase smh. Yeah once I read what was going on, and then the part about your marriage, I had a flashback and could tell you sex was somewhere in there lol @ how men operate. The roof could be caving in, no $ for the mortgage, and still their main issue would be not enough sex lol smh. Praying for it all to be the worst of your new year and nothing but bigger, better, happier Mrs. Nurse Practitioner!
New to your blog and I love it. I am glad that Pookah likes his new center. That makes all the difference in the world. Join the club about the husband, I too have experienced the after baby blues. Between nursing the baby, cooking, cleaning, laundry, work, late night diaper changes, etc… where do i find the strength to give that extra tlc to my hubby. I was shouting for joy after I stopped nursing so I could have my body back only to find my hubby shouting for joy cause he got “his” body back. LOL he seemed to much happier that’s when I put it together 14months later. I started getting more help around the house, back rubs, cooking dinner.LOL when i look back i had been putting my hubby second since before the baby was born. start showing him a little more attention and make sure you let him know how much you appreciate what he does to help you around the house. won’t fix everything but it might be a good start. I am praying for complete healing of your body.
I’m glad Pookah seems to be enjoying his new daycare! That should definitely be some stress off of your mind.
And that sex thing….girl….YES. Don’t wait on the energy, lol, just do it anyway. Do baby steps. I’m about to go into WAY tmi, but ehh.
Explain to him that you don’t have the energy to really participate. If he wants some, he gets quickies, and he does all the work, just so that you can get back into the groove of things. He’ll take it, because the other option is none at all.
Then, explain that if he wants more than quickies, he’s going to have to pick up some of the slack around the house, so that you are in a good mood, not stressed, well rested, etc. Once he shows that he’s willing to work on that, maybe even set a schedule if you need to. men don’t like to be turned down, so if they KNOW that there are certain days during the week where they will definitely get sex (unless there are ACTUAL issues, like menstrual cycle, sickness, injury, etc) the mood will be better.
That’s just my experience though!
YAY for New Beginnings!!
I will be praying for you on the surgery.
I must say that I am happy that Pookah is in a better daycare, those other people need to be reported…leaving the baby on water all day (smh) damn fools!
I am right with ya on the get health ride it is about time for me to just DO IT already.
And on your marriage: you know men lead with their penises, that’s the real man of the relationship and if he is unhappy, Hubby is unhappy, moody, cranky and mopey. So muster up the strength, pull out the sexy nightie/undies/gown and give him one to remember ….for a while ;). You can do it…hahaha
🙂 everything you set forth to accomplish will be done God Willing. I’m sure of it.
And Sex ya husband girl! What’s wrong with ya’ll!? lol Maybe I’m just a rabbit in that department because i’m never too tired. lol
I’m so sorry to hear about your surgery. I’m sending up prayers for a speedy recovery for you!
That is so awesome to hear that you found a daycare for Pookah that you both seem to like. We had to switch Mr. A’s daycare for similar reasons so I TOTALLY understand! Hopefully, this will be a great long term fit for you all!
And wow…you are so in my house with the sex issue. I have to agree with some of the other ladies, especially Christina. Just go with the flow for a little bit and maybe your stamina will return. It’s really hard to work, take care of the house and family and then muster up the energy for that. But you never know, maybe one day, it will all come roaring back from out of nowhere! 😉
Lots of luck with your goals! So glad Pookah likes the new day care 🙂
Sex is an issue for us, too. In my hubby’s ideal world we would do it 2-3 times a week. In my ideal world, he would keep his penis away from me and not mention that it exists until I wanted it. Which would maybe be once a month.
Maybe.
But lack of sex makes my husband grumpy. Very grumpy. Argumentative. A pain in the ass, in short and I don’t even think he realizes he does it. He’s so much nicer and more pleasant to be around when he’s freshly sexed. But I have no energy or desire most of the time. So he & I are at a constant impasse. I feel your pain.
When I enrolled my children in daycare, I worried about them not adapting, but they did great. Seems as though little man is going to do just fine.
Good luck with your goals for the new year!
Sending you Light and great energy for your 2011 goals. As wives/mothers/busy women, we’ve got to commit and recommit as long as it takes to get us to our ideal selves. I’m with you, as I’m working on similar goals myself.
Oh, and by the way, is anybody’s husband getting enough – LOL! They’re like machines, and I don’t think my libido can compete with my hubby’s, ya know!!