Random Tuesday: Total Randomness
Yes, I am feeling Random for this post soooo……
First, random cute photo of the boy…
And now, for some randomness……..
- Creflo Dollar. Now. No one but God and those two know what REALLY happened in that situation. Now while I don’t condone choking your child, I do condone discipline. And no 15 year old of mine is going out to a party at 1 am. My guess is she got really disrespectful and her Daddy got a little…..upset. But what really bothers me about this situation is that she called the police on her DADDY. And he was arrested. So, if I try to discipline my child and he doesn’t like it, he can call the cops and have me arrested?? What is this world coming to? Will we have a world where kids just do what they want because they think their parents can’t retaliate? Because we all know, talking doesn’t always work. Especially with “think they are grown and hard headed” teenagers.
- Pookah and the daycare: It’s going. He doesn’t cry everyday, but it also depends on when we get there. He is however learning a WHOLE lot in the last few weeks. He keeps coming home talking about vocabulary words. And yesterday, he told me a stop sign was a hexagon. *slow blink*. I’m about to restart introducing the potty to him at home and I’m going to have a chit chit with his teacher to see how it’s going at school. And I might have to tell her a thing or two depending on how she takes what I have to say…..
- Work: blows as usual. I sat down and thought about it. I like my job. In theory. I like the fact that I only work 3 times a week. I like that I can have long stretches off( like the 5 day one around father’s day). It’s fun, its ratchet, its entertaining, its a blessing. What I don’t like: the long hours, working weekends, holidays and working NIGHTS. I’m counting down until August. We start signing up for that schedule soon. So I’ll know soon what I have to do.
- Dallas is returning to TV! Will you watch??? I remember this show from when I was a little girl! My mother used to watch it and Dynasty. That may just tell you exactly how old I might be….
- I stepped on the scale for the first time in ages Monday morning. I cried. WTH. Operation get the hell back in shape starts today. I mean really. I have to get into a bathing suit in Destin Florida in front of the in laws 6 weeks!
- Did you hear about the new MacBook????I only ask because yes, I have my ipad, but I still lust after a MacBook….
- I’m out of birth control, and can’t get a dr’s appointment to get any….
- My bloggy friend’s husband died. It was so sudden! I feel so much for her and her son. It makes me sit here and look at all of the petty arguments and disagreements that CDub and I have and even the big ones and worry about what would happen if tomorrow he dropped dead? Would I be able to live with all of my regrets?
Well, I’ve just emptied my head of all of the thoughts clattering around in there. What do you think? Any opinions??
The Mister and I were watching a news story last night about a father being arrested for whipping his son with a belt. A neighbor filmed it on YouTube. Now the Dad was beating his son for not catching a baseball (supposedly), but the whole thing just struck me wrong. I think a world where you can’t discipline your own child (in a reasonable manner) without fear of being arrested is not right. I haven’t spanked Lewis yet, but if I need to and decide to do it, do I have to worry about getting arrested?!?
Never watched Dallas, but I might now because nothing else is on. I did love the Dallas spinoff Knots Landing back in the day.
The news of our blogland friend’s husband death hit me hard too. I saw the posts on FB and had tears in my eyes. It is scary. We’re not old. We have young children. We’re not supposed to die! I know that sometimes I will go to bed pissed at The Mister for some minor stupid thing and this made me think twice. Anything can really happen and tomorrow is not promised. I need to do better with expressing positive emotions on a daily basis.
I saw that news story on the today show. I just kept shaking my head.
I want the macbook as well. Hubby wants an IMAC for the family sooooo lol.
His death broke my heart. man.
I know man, I’m feeling for my girl.
If it happened anything like she(and her sister) claim it did, she had EVERY right to call the police. That went well beyond discipline, that was an attack, and totally abusive. I’m not sure why people think that ass-kicking is an appropriate discipline method for teenagers. It’s not. I come from a household of ass-kicking, and over-the-top violence, with a parent who would fly off the handle about things that honestly didn’t even warrant a “look”. There are other, far more effective forms of discipline for a teenager.
That’s not to say that I don’t believe in spanking, but I think that it’s usefulness doesn’t extend beyond the younger years of childhood. If you wanna fight your child like they’re an adult, then be prepared the face the same consequences of fighting an adult. You just might get the police called on you.
I hope the potty-training goes well!
I need them to put you on the schedule you want. You’ve been asking for that change since like….forever. They need to get it together.
Dallas…ehh, probably not, lol!
The birth control? Girl you better start charting some temperatures or something, lmbo!
Ok, don’t take this wrong Christina I love you, but I gotta respond to you and to Fran 🙂
I’m not condoning straight up violence to your children. I think spanking is a last resort. And that discipline should never be done in anger. BUT. My question is: what if I slap my child for being disrespectful and she bites her lip and is bleeding? And she calls the cops? And they arrest me? What is that saying to the child? THEY have the control. Not the parents. I think I had such a strong reaction to this because this happened to my cousin. He slapped his 16 year old for cursing HIM out, and she fought back. And then called the cops when he put her out. Now she had a cut on her cheek from the slap. He had scratches and bruises from her punching HIM. They took him to jail. Told him he couldn’t come back to his own house as long as she OR her younger sister was there. That’s riducoulous. It’s like big brother is in my home and if I side eye my child in a way he doesn’t like, he calls the cops and big brother tells him he is justified. I just think the kids today are OUT OF HAND. I would have NEVER EVER even thought about 1. disrespecting my parents( especially my father) and 2. Called the cops. SERIOUSLY?? SMH. I just think the lack of discipline and the fact that everyone wants to be their child’s friend and not their parents is contributing to the large number of our children who are in jail or just out there not being productive members of society. because they feel entitled. Because we have let mainstream society tell us how to raise our kids. And now they are running all over us. What are we raising?
Okay. Off my soapbox.
And my dr can get me in on Friday!! Crossing my legs until then
What is hitting a child because you’re pissed off saying, other than “Fear me”? To me, it says “I’m totally out of options”. Control was lost in the moment I decided that I was gonna smack somebody who hadn’t put their hands on me, not when the police got called. If he slapped her hard enough to break the skin on her cheek, *I* think that was way overboard. What lesson was learned from it? If she had gone to school with a mark like that on her face, her teachers. counselor, etc would have called the police and CPS as well, because hitting your child in a way that you’re leaving marks, breaking the skin, is abuse. So he probably would have gotten in trouble for that anyway.
I agree that people should be able to discipline their child (including spanking) without fear of having the police running in their house over minor things. If you have a teenager that decides they want to physically fight you? By all means, lay down the law, fight their ass back, don’t stand their and take a beating. But if we’re going to say that we shouldn’t spank toddlers out of anger, then that same thing needs to apply for hauling off and hitting teenagers too, IMO.
Actually there was no mark on her face, she bit her lip. Her lip was bleeding.
But anyway, I get what you are saying, I really do. And “spanking” has always ridden the fine line between discipline and abuse. I do agree that the patience we practice with our toddlers should be practiced on our teenagers too. But if you are going to act grown, then you are going to be treated as such. That’s the problem with having to discipline teenagers. By that stage, you shouldn’t have to lay your hands on them. They should know. They are almost adults, and should begin to be treated that way
And there was no lesson learned from my cousin’s case. Now his daughter is with her grandparents begging to come home, crying to all of us that’s she’s sorry. He’s sorry. But the law got involved and now working this out inside THEIR family is out of their hands.
I get what your saying girl but I see the other side of parents who ONLY know violence. Their first reaction is to hit. You should be able to spank your child. Just know your limits. Think about it like this..if Creflo’s daughter had went and complained of the beating to a teacher, nurse, etc he would of STILL be reported and still had DFACS at his house. Here’s the point.. THere are kids still acting a FOOL despite beat downs.. spanking is not the answer. I believe there is more going on in this story than’s being reported..
I responded above. 🙂
I agree that you have to look at each indiviual child to know what form of discipline to use. Pookah HATES time out. It hurts his feelings. And it works. I’ve only had to tap him a few times on the leg when he got really out of control. I think there is more to the Creflo situation than we know. But that’s their family and I’m not going to judge.
I think Creeflo was out of line period. My dad never put his hands on me or any of my sisters. My brother, not that’s a different story. I think that there is discipline and then there is abuse and what he did sounds more like abuse than discipline to me. There is a right and a wrong way to handle everything and he choose the wrong way. I think if her mom had been the one laying the law down, even if it turned physical the reaction wouldn’t be a as strong but he is a man choking and slamming his daughter. If she thinks shes grown he needs to put her ass out but don’t go marking her skin up because you’re the adult. Thats my stance on that. I don’t know what the dynamic is in their household but at this point, it really is irrelevant. Everyone involved will learn a lesson from this.
I do hope you get on the potty train with your boy. lol
I hope you get the shift you deserve and soon
yea im good on Dallas. I was too young for the old one and I won’t get into the new version.
My weight never seems to change but my clothes get looser. Its the strangest thing.
I’m not very into Apple products aside from my ipod
Unless you trying for number 2 you betta get on that! stat! lol
I’m am so saddened by her loss. Makes me cherish all the things i have a little more.
I think everyone will learn something from this whether they want to or not. I never said what he did was right. I’m questioning the right as parents to discipline their children. As they see fit. Yes abuse exists, but for some reason, I don’t see it as the case here. Of course, I may be wrong.
I got where you were coming from. I think we should dicipline how we see fit as long as its not abusive to the children. I also think we as parents need to work on how we react to our kids. Try and start thinking 1st before we fly off the handle. I was telling christina earlier that I will fuss and yell at Jas and then feel bad afterward. I never want her to think of her mommy as mean. After I’ve fussed or yelled and have calmed down, I always go an apologize and explain to her why mommy was mad and tell her i love her and im sorry. I’m trying to start this early so it can continue her entire life. By the time she’s a teen a hope we won’t have to deal with any unnecessary nonsense lol
Coming from a household where my mom has slapped me clear cross my mouth for getting smart with her I am use to discipline. I have been whipped with whatever she could get her hands on. Parents have to do what’s best for their child and their household when it comes to disciplining.
August can’t get here fast enough
Dallas…..that’s way way way way before my time “side eye”
No birth control well I guess you will be joining me in abstinence….we do have sex with our minds though it’s fun you should try it.
if you don’t have a seat being married and talking about abstaining! no mind sex over here sista lol
In this situation, from the way it was presented, Rev. dollar had every right to discipline his daughter in the manner that he did. He already told her that she couldn’t attend the party, 2) she kept sassing him, it escalated, and “the rod” came later. After 15 years in education, I am quite disgusted in how children are being raised. Many parents try to “friend” their kids and reason with them on every thing. Sometimes it is simply because the parent said so. I pity parents who don’t properly discipline their kids bc they are always a burden later.
First, that picture of Pookah is priceless. I’m happy to hear that his school is working out for you both! That’s awesome. And, I am hoping you get a better schedule, because it sounds like you have a great job that you enjoy!
Petty arguments happen all the time, but it does make you stop when someone you are close to or you lose a family member. Creflo Dollar, I agree was being a dad. Mine can call the police if they want to. I’ll explain to them how much they love them vs me and what we can do vs what they won’t do. Now run tell that! I love randomness, I did a post last week on it. It helps to get all that mess out of our head girl.
Lovely thoughts :)! (and pretty random too)
As far as the new Macbook is concerned, I am pretty happy with my iPad, I am excited about new laptop that Intel is going to launch, it says it has the strongest battery backup, cant wait for it!
well.. Creflo – I just don’t know. Sounds like things really got out of control. Hoping for the best for all involved.
Birth control – i see you trying to join my club.
Dallas- nope. just not excited about it for some reason
Pookah – I hope you and Pookah’s teacher can work something out on the potty training. SOON
A hexagon you say? Wow. We’re still working on red and blue over here.
Dallas and Dynasty! Yes! I used to watch those too! (we’s ol’ women here!) I’m going to have to get on watching this new version soon. Has it started yet?
Out of birth control eh? Good luck with that.
So sorry about your friend’s loss. I’ve told the hubs in no uncertain terms that even though we may not always get along, he’s not allowed to die. That seemed to settle that.
Great post!