SOC Sunday:Bad Parenting?

I’m having problems with Pookah.  On Friday, I got a bad report from his teacher. And its not the first time.  Evidently, he had been behaving so badly( hitting, biting, throwing things) that she separated him from the rest of the class.  he was in time out all by himself.  In ANOTHER room.  According to her, he was in a rage.  I knew exactly what she was talking about. One moment, he is this sweet loving child who wants hugs, kisses, who is cooperative who does what you tell him. Then you have the other Pookah.  When  it comes to sharing, or another child tries to take something from him, he  flies off the handle, wants to throw things when he is mad, hit you or whoever is the offending party or worse, bite.  His teacher had been handling it, but she says its getting to the point where she is going to have to say something to the other parents.  And that takes it to another whole level. Sigh.  I dont’ know what to do.

I’ve talked to him, I’ve tapped his hands, I’ve given him time out, I’ve prayed, I’ve read all the books, I’ve asked for advice.  Nothing seems to be working.  I’m at a loss at what to do.  He rarely does this when he is with me.  i see glimpses of it. He every once and a while will try to hit me, but I put a stop to that quickly.  I just don’t know what to do. I’m afraid for my child. I know he’s young, but if this defiance or rage, or what ever you want to call it isn’t gotten under control now, what does it mean for his future? Someone told me it’s just a phase and that’ he’ll grown out of it, but what if he doesn’t? I’m trying to be a good mom, I am consistent, I do the same thing, I discipline the same way every time.

The worse part seems to be that my mom is kinda sorta blaming me and CDub for it.  She said we dont put enough limits on Pookah. That we let him have things and do things with our stuff, so that when he goes to daycare and can’t have something, he doenst understand the concept.  What? Just because I let him see my iphone and let him read stories on my nook, and he has a access to a few electronics that we watch him carefully when he handles them, does that mean we are too indulgent? I don’t let him have his way all the time, he doesn’t get everything he wants.  I mean really, he can’t touch my laptop, he can’t have my Canon, he can’t touch the stove, he has limits! If he didn’t , I wouldn’t have so many temper tantrums in Walmart for goodness sake.   That really hurt my heart that she would say basically that its my fault.  She tried to backtrack, but it had already been said.  I’m rambling, but this situation is bananas.  I need help, and don’t where to go.

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