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Keeping it Real: Married folks need alone time too


CDub and I have not been on vacation ALONE, without Pookah…since he was born.  Pookah will be 7 next month.

Let that marinate for a bit….

Oh there was that one time earlier this year when we got to spend the night at a hotel…alone..but other than that? NOTHING.

We’ve been on date night over the years..( and honestly, not often enough), but we haven’t really been away…alone…in SEVEN LONG YEARS.

Now, don’t get me wrong, we love our boy. We love traveling together as a family. We are the 3 musketeers.



But since I keep it all the way real around here,  I’m going to admit Mommy and Daddy need a break.  Mommy and Daddy need to be alone..Mommy and Daddy need to be able to hang from chandeliers if we want to. ( tmi I know!)

We need US time.

That’s why I was THRILLED to receive an invitation this year to the SocialMedia on the Sand Conference At Beaches in Negril Jamaica. 


Now, I  admit that my first thought was that Pookah would have SO MUCH FUN!I was in love with the idea of the kids club and baby sitting services which meant that we would be able to vacation together as a family but spend time alone as a couple as needed.  But then I wrestled with the fact that he is in school and that he was struggling a bit with the transition into 2nd grade, I just couldn’t justify taking him out of school. And I thought we would have to decline.

But then, CDub said those fateful words: leave him.

I felt..guilty…like I was an awful parent for not letting my child have this awesome experience.

But as I’ve been reminded a lot lately, when your children are grown up and leave the nest, it’s just going to be you and your husband.

I want to still know him, still like him, still understand him. We’ve been married for 11 years and 7 of those years, we have been parents. We are hands on parents who honestly love spending time with our child and taking him on vacation.

But we decided, just this once, to be a little selfish and have time just for us.

I’m nervous.

I’m excited.

I’m nervous.

My mother has arrived and she and Pookah are excited to have each other all to themselves next week while we are gone.

And we are excited to be alone….Here….

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So this weekend, I’ll be spending my time packing and in a flurry of preparations.

I can’t wait!!!

Have you vacationed without your kids?


Wednesday 13th of September 2017

Thus is so real. My son will be five this year and we are in the same boat. We had one already but it's easy to get a sitter for one. And then we had him and he didn't sleep so we felt guilty leaving someone with that. A big ball of sleepy exhaustion. And then my nephew came to live with us and we were three kids deep and have felt kinda stuck. That time is needed.

Amanda Love

Monday 24th of October 2016

This is important. Married couples with kids tend to forget about getting some alone time for themselves. That's exactly how you keep the fire burning and it's good to be able to spend time together without the kids to worry about. I think it's awesome that you got to go to such a wonderful place as well!

Christina Aliperti

Sunday 23rd of October 2016

Time as a couple without kids is very important. It's what keeps the romance alive.


Sunday 23rd of October 2016

I think you will have an amazing vacation alone!! I can't wait to hear all about it!!

Nancy @ whispered inspirations

Sunday 23rd of October 2016

I agree married folks do need alone time! My hubby and I getaway when we can. It's a great way to spend time and connect with each other again. Life with kids can get crazy sometimes.