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Thriving: That Time I Cut My Hair

Thriving: That time I cut my hair: I went from natural hair and all that entails to a short relaxed style.

Thriving: its my hair


So listen.

On Friday, in the name of self-care and the my effort to THRIVE this year, I cut my hair.

Not only did I cut it, but I decided to relax it after 10 years of being natural.

A big step if I do say so myself.

But sometimes, you have to take big steps in order to Thrive.

My natural hair had become a burden, more of a thing that I had to work at than just hair.

It was a struggle, something I wasn’t happy with. My self-esteem was taking a hit daily simply because I didn’t feel like myself. Because I didn’t feel like me.

Let me be clear, this isn’t a indictment against natural hair. If that is the lifestyle ( because let’s be clear, it’s a LIFESTYLE), that you have chosen,


Because that is the beauty of hair, in particular the hair of a black woman. I woke up Friday Morning with a big puffy soft afro that I could stretch down to my shoulders.  I went to bed with short straight hair and air hitting the back of my neck.  Next month I might decide to put in a weave down to my butt. This summer, I might have braids.  But FOR ME,  the drama of wash day, conditioning, twisting,  untwisting, on an almost every other day basis was getting to be too much.

I’ve got a child, a husband, a full-time job, a house to clean, a blog to write and a life to live. Dealing with the drama that was MY natural hair was not fitting into that life.

I will say that Saturday morning when I woke up, took off my scarf and ran my fingers through my hair, I felt so FREE that I almost danced across the bathroom floor.

But the most important thing is that I got an immediate boost in my self-esteem: my husband liked it, my child liked it, my friend told me I looked like I did in high school. And I FELT GOOD.

And really, isn’t that what it’s all about?

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Tuesday 21st of February 2017

[…] is my hair is so easy to deal with. I don’t have the struggles that Everyday Eye Candy wrote about here. My hair will do whatever I want it to do, except maybe grow […]

Leslie Kershaw

Sunday 12th of February 2017

I love it. You look beautiful. Hair is stressful, we just need to wear our hair how ever it works for us!


Friday 10th of February 2017

I love the short hair. It really suits you. I've always gone back and forth between super short pixie cuts and longer hair... but always, always come back to short. There's just something about it that makes me feel like me and everyone around me always tells me how great I look with my short hair. Many women are afraid of going short but I've never felt that way...


Wednesday 8th of February 2017

Nothing like a new hair do to shake things up in a good way. I'm thinking of doing something drastic for my 40th. I love it! All about that get up and go life!


Monday 6th of February 2017

You definitely have a glow about you and I know it's because your hair is fabulous!