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On thriving: week one Project 52 of the Eyecandy Project 52

Eyecandy Project 52: Week 1: You At the Beginning


Last year, I made a vision board, hoping that it would hone my focus and help guide me and motivate me to do great things.

I was HYPE!

And then…

Nothing happened.

Ok, I take that back, some wonderful things happened. See here and here and here here


There was no focus…….

I was all over the place, not consistent, not following through. And by the end of the year, I looked around and realized that I had lost…

I have been somebody’s mom or wife for the last 11 years and I forgot about the rest of me. I used to be the queen of self-care. It was NOTHING for me to schedule myself a spa day, to get my hair done, to read a book just because, go shopping, to take myself to lunch, dinner, or a cruise.

I took care of me.

But in our society, there is a culture of women putting children and husbands before ourselves.  And we as mothers, wives, women suffer because of it. .

I’ve lost ME.

I realized that I’ve given other people too much power over how I’m feeling about myself and I’m just not doing what I know I’m capable of.

My Daddy once told me he was so proud of me for doing what I wanted to do, how I wanted to do it. I agreed with him, that was me.  But in the last year, I’ve had problems believing that. I’ve been down on myself, only seeing my shortcomings and not my wins.

I am never going to be all the things to everybody. It’s not possible. It’s not SUPPOSED to be possible. But I’ve let social media, other people’s opinions and the little voice in my head tell me otherwise.

I’m tired of feeling shitty about myself and what I can or can’t do. That ends NOW.

I’m going to have a good year this year. I will NEVER again feel like I’m not a good enough mother, not a good enough wife, not a good enough cook, housekeeper, writer, photographer, or human being.

This year I will see all of the mundane beauty in my life.

I will see my wins, big and small.

I will be the version of me that I know exists.

The me that has been cowering in a corner for the last few years it seems.

I kept going around and around about picking a word. I had done it once before and it helped. Really it did.

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary:


  1. to grow vigorously :  flourish

  2. to gain in wealth or possessions :  prosper

  3. to progress toward or realize a goal despite or because of circumstances



If you are looking for me, I’ll be somewhere in the world thriving.

Happy New Year Friends.


If you want to make your own word of the year, check out a few resources:

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Monday 6th of February 2017

[…] Friday, in the name of self-care and the my effort to THRIVE this year, I cut my […]

Thriving this Year: Get Healthy with Jenny Craig and loose weight!

Tuesday 10th of January 2017

[…] when I knew that my word of the year would be Thrive,  I decided that my health is part of that thriving. I need to once and for all, stop all this […]

Michelle Smith

Monday 9th of January 2017

I chose a word last year but totally forgot, So much went on in my life. I wish I had focused on it better because my one word was...FREE

Tiffany Hathorn

Monday 9th of January 2017

I love (and can relate) to this post. I feel like I have lost myself in motherhood as well. One thing I am doing is treating myself to something I want every time I get paid. Last week, I went on a little shopping spree at Tuesday Morning to buy stationery items. I just had a client pay me today, so I think I may go get my hair done.

Amanda Love

Wednesday 4th of January 2017

I love this post, we all need this kind of push and motivation to do better in life! It's important that we take good care of ourselves and to also make sure that we're thriving. I'm sure you're going to reach your goals for this year!